Freeze, Flight and Fight (3F) – three ways of behavior when we are facing danger

A01_opasnostNo metter if it’s about fighting for your life when facing the wild animals or in relationship with our clients, colleagues and superiors. This behaviours are ‘’written’’ in our nervous system. Remember the picture of a scene from circus with lions and tigers. Do you know what look on their faces have people in the first rows? They are all freezed, they don’t move because they don’t want to make some sudden move. And remember the story of two friends being attacked by a bear and one of them was playing dead. And when someone scares you, do you stay freezed? This doesn’t happen because we think about it and then do it, but it’s something that’s written million years ago in our brain as a model. In every day life, Freeze isn’t shown on such a obvious way.

But, that’s not all, it’s important to say that the others also Freeze when someone else is in dangrer, in order to overcome it. If we are going in line in the dark and the first person Freezes, it’s almost certain that all the others will do the same in that exact moment.

However, this doesn’t happen only when we are exposed to a physical and visual threats, but also when we hear a question which is, in our opinion, dangerous in some way. In this situations, it’s common for us to practically ‘’glue’’ ourselves to the chair and grab the back of the chair pretty hard. Also, when people are in the middle of very important business negotiations they have a tendency to hold their breath or to start breathing very shallow, which they do not notice, but it can be very useful information for the one sitting across that person. If you notice that your client has wrapped his/her legs around the chair legs and took a ‘’safety’’ position for a short time, you can be sure that that your client Froze and that something you said he/her considered it a threat.